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Single Mother Survival Guide

Becoming a single mum is one of the most daunting and overwhelming life changes someone will ever go through. Whether you are pregnant or have teenagers, you will most likely be confused and struggling with what to do next. I became a single mother in 2013 when my daughter was just a few months old, and it has been a challenging but rewarding journey ever since. This Podcast (and the website www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com) was created to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about. SO WHAT IS THE SINGLE MOTHER SURVIVAL GUIDE PODCAST ABOUT? A Podcast for single mums, made by a single mum… The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast includes a mixture of me babbling about single mums business, and interviews and discussions with different people and experts about different topics. First off the ranks this includes an interview with a Wills and Estate lawyer which contains everything YOU need to know about getting a Will done, an interview with a financial adviser on everyday money management, savings, spending and so forth, an interview with an online security expert so that YOU know how to keep yourself secure online, an open interview with a domestic violence survivor and advocate, and another interview with a financial adviser on everything to do with insurance, and what you should think about getting insured to ensure the financial safety for you and your kids. Coming up after that I have chats with people including parenting experts, family lawyers, and a life coach. I also chat about the social stigma of being a single mum, single parent travel, everyday tips to make YOUR life easier, dating, personal budgeting, resources out there to help YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN, child support, domestic violence, successful co-parenting, advantages to being a single mum, and the list goes on…
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Now displaying: September, 2019
Sep 24, 2019

In this episode, I answer a common question: Julia, how did you get to be so resilient? I share some strategies with you in the hope that they help build up your resilience too.  

Links mentioned in the episode:

Thank you to this week's sponsor, Invisalign

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Read more, and sign up to the online program for single mothers - Don't Just Survive, THRIVE! - here

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Sep 17, 2019

On Elizabeth’s first date with the father of her son, he whisked her away interstate on a plane for the weekend. Over time their relationship deepened and life was good. Very good. Elizabeth was progressing in her career as her journalist, they had bought their dream house, and they got engaged. She then unexpectedly fell pregnant, which although was a shock, was fine because (she thought) she had met the man of her dreams. 

Elizabeth knew in her gut that something was wrong in the relationship, but pushed problems under the carpet and justified the problems with the good things in their relationship. That is until the night she discovered her fiancé's infidelity. Her son was 8 months old at the time.

Elizabeth describes that moment in her life as a bookmark. She recalls collapsing and howling with grief, completely overcome with what was happening and unable to know how to get up off the floor. There was the Elizabeth before that moment, and the Elizabeth after that moment. Never the same again. 

In this episode, Elizabeth shares her story. 

Elizabeth also discusses:

  • The spiritual guidance that took over her in those few hours after learning about the infidelity and how that helped her to carry on being a mum to her baby.
  • The importance of role modelling to her son what she was going to stand for as a woman, and wanting him to have two parents happy apart rather than unhappy together.
  • What the infidelity did to her and how she blamed herself and struggled with her sense of self-worth.
  • Dealing with the loss of her dreams.
  • How she relished in being a victim and how it validated her anger, but how she eventually felt the need to move out of that headspace and take charge of her life.
  • Rebuilding after the infidelity and what helped her heal.
  • The benefits she has found being a single mum and how becoming a single mum has helped form an incredible bond between herself and her son.
  • Moving on and dating.
  • The difficulty of co-parenting after infidelity.
  • Her she developed anxiety and started having panic attacks and how that led to realising the importance of self-care and further healing.

Elizabeth is an amazing woman, and she describes how ultimately she is grateful for this experience because it taught her the importance of resilience and independence. A must listen!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Read more, and sign up to the online program for single mothers - Don't Just Survive, THRIVE! - here

Check out Elizabeth's blog - Bambi and Baby - HERE

Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram here

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Sep 10, 2019

In this episode, I answer some more questions sent in by listeners. These questions relate to:

 
  • When your ex wants to introduce his new partner to your 5 and 3 yr girls who he rarely sees, and what questions to ask his new girlfriend if given the opportunity.
  • For someone new to the dating scene, what questions to ask (and how and when) a guy who you have been dating for a month in terms of a future relationship, marriage, and future children.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Read more, and sign up to the online program for single mothers - Don't Just Survive, THRIVE! - here

 To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Sep 3, 2019

In 2016 Anna (not her real name) met the man who would be her future husband. It was amazing from the very start. Within a few months, she knew he was the man that she wanted to get married to, have children with, and spend the rest of her life with. She thought she had met the man of her dreams. Soon after, Anna unexpectedly fell pregnant.

They got married and everything was great until about six months into the pregnancy when things started to change. For example, her husband wouldn't allow her to watch TV and he suddenly started reading the bible (when he had never been that religious beforehand).

At 35 weeks pregnant, Anna found out about her husband's mental illness after a passing question from her mother in law. She asked Anna if her son had been taking his medication. When Anna returned home, she questioned him about the medication and he told her if she didn’t stop asking he would stab her pregnant stomach. Anna then found the medication and did some research. She discovered her husband had schizophrenia.

Anna refers to the day her son was born as the day she lost her husband. He didn’t hold their son, didn’t bathe him, and didn’t connect with him at all.

In the months that followed Anna and her husband broke up several times. She left him for good when their son was 7 months old.

In this episode, Anna shares her story.

We also discuss...

  • How she managed the separation as well as becoming the primary carer for her son's father and manager of all his appointments.
  • Facilitating a relationship between father and son.
  • How she has coped over the last few years and how her ex became someone she didn't even know.
  • Dealing with the relapses.   
  • Dealing with guilt.
  • The worry she has that her son will grow up and blame her for not helping his father.
  • The fear of dating.
  • The stigma of being a single mum.
  • Looking after ourselves.
  • And so much more!

Anna has been through a lot over the last three years, but what is most remarkable is her positive attitude. A must listen!

 Links mentioned in the episode:

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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