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Single Mother Survival Guide

Becoming a single mum is one of the most daunting and overwhelming life changes someone will ever go through. Whether you are pregnant or have teenagers, you will most likely be confused and struggling with what to do next. I became a single mother in 2013 when my daughter was just a few months old, and it has been a challenging but rewarding journey ever since. This Podcast (and the website www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com) was created to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about. SO WHAT IS THE SINGLE MOTHER SURVIVAL GUIDE PODCAST ABOUT? A Podcast for single mums, made by a single mum… The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast includes a mixture of me babbling about single mums business, and interviews and discussions with different people and experts about different topics. First off the ranks this includes an interview with a Wills and Estate lawyer which contains everything YOU need to know about getting a Will done, an interview with a financial adviser on everyday money management, savings, spending and so forth, an interview with an online security expert so that YOU know how to keep yourself secure online, an open interview with a domestic violence survivor and advocate, and another interview with a financial adviser on everything to do with insurance, and what you should think about getting insured to ensure the financial safety for you and your kids. Coming up after that I have chats with people including parenting experts, family lawyers, and a life coach. I also chat about the social stigma of being a single mum, single parent travel, everyday tips to make YOUR life easier, dating, personal budgeting, resources out there to help YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN, child support, domestic violence, successful co-parenting, advantages to being a single mum, and the list goes on…
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Dec 28, 2021

This week on the show, I have a single mum, Sarah Robb, sharing her story. 

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

Sarah is a beautiful member of my Thrive Tribe community whom I've known for a number of years now. 

In this episode, Sarah talks about:

  • how she met her ex,
  • how they quickly entered into a very serious relationship,
  • the gaslighting she experienced from her ex,
  • the other red flags that showed up in the relationship,
  • how she handled the discovery of her husband's infidelities and affair with another woman before and during their marriage,
  • how she discovered that the other woman had a close relationship with her daughter and had known her since she had been born (without Sarah's knowledge),
  • becoming a single mum twice,
  • the importance of taking care of yourself first, how she focused on self-development to have a thriving life as a single mum,
  • her favourite things about being a single mum, and
  • so much more!

Listen to her journey of healing, growing, and thriving. 

Links mentioned in the episode: 

For a limited time, the doors to Thrive Tribe are open, sign up right HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Dec 21, 2021

In this episode, my special guest from last week shares Part 2 of her story.

In the last episode (278 - Blindsided by my partner (Part 1)), my anonymous guest talked about how she had always thought she and her partner had a good life. They had been together for 7.5 years and they rarely argued. 

Life was good when they had their first baby, but things quickly changed when she saw changes in her partner's demeanour and when he began a strong friendship with a girl from his work. Until one day, she was blindsided by her partner's sudden decision to leave her while she was just pregnant with their second baby.

In Part 1, my guest talked about:

  • the challenges of becoming a first-time mum and the shifting in identity from doing what she wanted when she wanted and adjusting to motherhood,
  • how she never felt fully supported by her partner when it came to caring for the baby,
  • not addressing the unspoken expectations about the shared responsibilities of being a parent,
  • the signs and changes in the behaviour of her partner when she found out he was texting another woman,
  • her decision to move back to her parents to get the support she needed,
  • juggling career and pregnancy while taking care of her first child,
  • co-parenting with her ex, and 
  • moving into her own place and starting the next chapter.

In this episode, my guest shares Part 2 of her story. She talks about:

  • the absolute grief and trauma she felt when her ex left her and the emotionally difficult pregnancy and birth she had,
  • how she was in fight or flight mode the first months after separation,
  • how she proactively sought help and put support in place around her during the early part of her pregnancy as she knew she was a candidate for PTSD,
  • trauma recovery,
  • intentionally seeking single mum friends who get it and understands her journey,
  • how her visits to her psychologist triggered past trauma from her childhood which she never knew were there but
    how seeking therapy during these hard times helped release past and current trauma and helped process the rollercoaster of feelings one goes through in times of grief,
  • her journey to self-discovery, and
  • so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 278 - Blindsided by my partner (Part 1) HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Dec 14, 2021

This week on the show I have an anonymous single mum sharing her story. She's a single mum of 2 kids - a 3-year old and a 3-month old.

My guest had always thought she and her partner had a good life. They had been together for 7.5 years and they rarely argued. They spent much of their time travelling the world together.

She was studying for her Masters when they had an unplanned pregnancy, which caught her off guard as she was only a few weeks out from completing it and was about to pursue a new career.

Life was good when they had their first baby. They bought a house and had good times together exploring new places. But things quickly changed when she saw changes in her partner's demeanour and when he began a strong friendship with a girl from his work. Until one day, when she got completely blindsided and was told by him that he wanted to separate.

In this episode, my guest talks about:

  • trusting the process when you have an unexpected pregnancy, as it has a habit of working things out in the end,
  • the challenges of becoming a first-time mum,
  • the challenges of shifting identity from doing what she wanted when she wanted and adjusting to motherhood,
  • how she didn't feel fully supported by her partner when it came to caring for the baby,
  • not addressing the unspoken expectations about the shared responsibilities of being a parent,
  • the signs and changes in the behaviour of her partner when she found out he was texting another woman,
  • how she was eventually blindsided by her partner's sudden decision to leave her while she was just pregnant with their second baby,
  • her decision to move back to her parents to get the support she needed,
  • juggling career and pregnancy while taking care of her first child,
  • co-parenting with her ex,
  • moving into her own place and starting the next chapter,
  • and so much more!
Stay tuned for Part 2 of her story that drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Dec 7, 2021
This week on the show, I have Gina Fontaine joining me. 
 
Gina is an author, a personal trainer, and a women's wellness coach, and has built a career helping women use movement to achieve optimal health. She has dedicated the last 27 years to studying her craft as a fitness professional.
 
Gina earned her Bachelor of Science degree in Kinesiology with an emphasis in Exercise Science from Indiana University in 1996. Since then, she has earned personal trainer certifications from the American College of Sports Medicine and the National Academy of Sports Medicine. In 1998, she became a certified yoga teacher. And, more recently, in 2018, she became a Postpartum Corrective Exercise Specialist.
 
Now, Gina has expanded her focus from physical health to include emotional and spiritual health as well; helping moms find a healthy, happy life balance through a realistic, sustainable approach to motherhood.
 
She lives with her three children in Denver, Colorado, where she continues to train and coach moms and give one-minute wellness solutions to thrive.

Her book, You Are a Supermom, was released in September 2021 and the book provides the basis for the Supermom Club, the online fitness community for time-strapped moms looking for an easy way to integrate wellness into their day.

In this episode, Gina shares:
  • why and how her marriage came to an end,
  • how she dealt with guilt and shame after the tumultuous years of her divorce,
  • the challenge of family reorganization and dealing with changes of adversity in the family,
  • what to do when your kids rebel against you and how to handle it with love and compassion instead of being reactive,
  • getting through the pandemic with teens and tweens,
  • adapting to blended family situations,
  • how she began recording her thoughts, advice, and tips which gave birth to her book on mums who are feeling overwhelmed and helps them reclaim their superpower,
  • the importance of having a self-care routine and focusing on overall wellness, and
  • so much more!  
Links mentioned in the episode: 
 
Find out more about Gina here
 
Gina's book, "You Are A Supermom," is available on Amazon.
 
Unfortunately, Gina is unable to give a coupon as originally thought, but instead has an even better offer which is, $100 off her Movement Magic Design Intensive - her signature movement evaluation and personalized guidance to get your wellness transformation off to a great start. Get that offer here.
 
Join Gina's online fitness community for time-strapped moms - Supermom Club.
 
Take the "What Kind of Supermom Quiz Are You?" HERE. Be sure to take the quiz and find out how to leverage your superpowers as a mom. 
 
Connect with Gina on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and join her Facebook group here
 
To contact Gina, email: gina@ginafontaine.com
 
Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Nov 30, 2021
This week on the show, Jenny shares Part 4 of her story. 
 
**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**
 
In the first episode (Episode 273 - Part 1), Jenny talked about what life was like growing up with an alcoholic father and the sexual abuse she received from her father starting at the age of 9, and how she was betrayed by her own mother to protect her father. She shared how she overcame and thrived after sexual abuse. 
 
The second part (Episode 274) was a continuation of her story where she talked about her two marriages. She shared how she faced the challenge of dealing with her husband and in-laws when they found out about her traumatic childhood. She also talked about the things that went wrong in both marriages, which ultimately led her to free herself and her daughters from a loveless marriage in order to thrive as a single mum. 
 
In last week's episode (Episode 275 - Part 3) Jenny talks about her narcissistic ex that she fell head over heels in love with. She talked about their sexual adventures, how they got into 'swinging' and couples clubs. She shared how she started noticing the red flags in the relationship, and she bravely shared the pain she felt about his cheating, the compulsive lying, the gaslighting, and ghosting even after the truth about his cheating came out. 
 
In this part, Jenny continues to share her story about the narcissistic ex. She speaks about how she sought therapy and how he started to sneak his way back into her life two years after the relationship ended. She caved and kept their relationship a secret from everyone she knew so as not to disappoint them. She soon found herself stuck in a cycle of manipulation and lies, affecting her self-worth once again. 
 
In this episode, she also shares: 
  • life after the breakup,
  • how she sought therapy to help her process the breakup and heal past emotional wounds,
  • how the narcissist ex ended up back in her life, using and hurting her,
  • that lightbulb moment she had that he was not deserving of her love and attention,
  • dating forwards,
  • and so much more!
Jenny's reason for sharing her story is to show that there is hope even when things seem hopeless. We hope you were inspired and empowered after listening to her story!
 
Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Nov 23, 2021
This week on the show, Jenny shares Part 3 of her story. 
 
**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**
 
In the first episode (Episode 273 - Part 1), Jenny talked about what life was like growing up with an alcoholic father and the sexual abuse she received from her father starting at the age of 9, and how she was betrayed by her own mother to protect her father. She shared how she overcame and thrived after sexual abuse. 
 
Last week's episode (Episode 274 - Part 2) was a continuation of her story where she talked about her two marriages. She shared how she faced the challenge of dealing with her husband and in-laws when they found out about her traumatic childhood. She also talked about the things that went wrong in both marriages, which ultimately led her to free herself and her daughters from a loveless marriage in order to thrive as a single mum. 
 
In this part, Jenny talks about her narcissistic ex that she fell head over heels in love with. She talked about their sexual adventures, how they got into 'swinging' and couples clubs. She shared how she started noticing the red flags in the relationship, and she bravely shared the pain she felt about his cheating, the compulsive lying, the gaslighting, and ghosting even after the truth about his cheating came out. 
 
In this episode, she also shared: 
  • how she started dating after ending her 2nd marriage,
  • how she met her narcissist ex-boyfriend,
  • the times that her friends and her intuition told her that something was not right but how she ignored the signs,
  • learning about the "smear campaign" her ex created against her to make her out to be the bad person to his other woman,
  • and so much more!
Stay tuned for Part 4 that drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Nov 16, 2021

In this episode, single mum Jenny shares Part 2 of her story.  

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

In the last episode (Episode 273 - Part 1), Jenny talked about what life was like growing up with an alcoholic father and the sexual abuse she received from her father starting at the age of 9, and how she was betrayed by her own mother to protect her father. She shared how she overcame and thrived after sexual abuse. 

In this episode, Jenny talks about her two marriages and touches on life as a single mum raising two daughters after getting divorced.

In this episode, she also shared: 

  • how she fell head over heels and married her first husband,
  • what it was like dealing with her in-laws after they found out about her traumatic childhood,
  • how both of her husbands coped with her traumatic childhood,
  • how she gave in to her first husband's fantasies about sleeping with other men, which resulted in an unexpected pregnancy,
  • the resentment she felt towards her first husband after he convinced her to terminate the pregnancy,
  • the break up of her first marriage,
  • going from having everything to having nothing,
  • how the relationship with her second husband started,
  • dealing with her second husband's drinking and depression which ultimately resulted in resentment and resurfacing of her childhood traumas,
  • choosing to stay in the relationship for the children,
  • how she chose not to settle and free herself from a loveless marriage and thrive as a single mum,
  • and so much more!

Stay tuned for Part 3 that drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 273 - Part 1 HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Nov 9, 2021

In this episode, single mum Jenny shares Part 1 of her story.  

**Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is not suitable to listen to within earshot of children.**

In part 1 of this series, Jenny shares her life from her childhood and the sexual abuse she received from her father which started when she was nine years old.

She talks about:

  • what life was like growing up with an alcoholic father and the sexual abuse she got from her father,
  • the pain she had to overcome when she exposed her father, and the shame that came with it,
  • the discovery that her father was also doing the same thing to her sisters,
  • the court case and how she was let down by the people who should have protected her,
  • how her father continued abusing her throughout it,
  • how she was betrayed by her own mother to protect her father,
  • how her own children coped with the truth about their mother's abuse,
  • the power of forgiveness, and
  • overcoming and thriving after sexual abuse.

This is not just a story about surviving abuse, but about the bravery and strength that one little girl had, and how she got through it, and ultimately thrived in life.

It is Jenny's hope to provide encouragement to women to believe that peace, happiness, and self-love are possible, even after the most horrific of traumas.

Stay tuned for Part 2 that drops next week.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Nov 2, 2021
This week on the show, I have Jen Adams joining me.

Jen Adams is a functional nutritionist and skin health expert with 10 years of clinical experience. She specialises in pro-ageing nutrition advice for the skin and body, helping clients look younger and feel better by restoring health, balance and wellbeing.
 
Jen has an honest, professional approach and an exceptional understanding of how the body works, in particular how metabolic pathways influence our metabolism as we get older. She understands the science behind skin health and nutrition and how the two are linked – and extensively researches innovative and natural treatments that promote health for the skin and body.
 
Through her Metabolic Health Club, Jen provides online coaching and delivers structured programmes that help clients understand how they can make small changes to restore their metabolic health, improve their gut function and increase their energy levels.
 
The treatments she offers are concentrated and personal – her knowledge and expertise in skin health and nutrition are combined with a supportive and results-driven approach.

In this episode, Jen talks about:

  • Signs and symptoms that your metabolic health is struggling as you age and what you can do about it.
  • Why it's a good idea to ditch probiotics and what to replace them with.
  • How adding Apple Cider Vinegar and hot lemon works wonders for skin problems.
  • Skin problem versus gut problems.
  • Her top three nutrition tips for anti-aging.
  • And so much more!
Links mentioned in the episode: 

Find out more about Jen here.

Download Jen's free guide to Boost Your Metabolism here

Jump on the waitlist for Jen's skin health club for women here.

Connect with Jen on Facebook.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Oct 26, 2021
 

This week on the show, I have Leslie Parker joining me.  

Leslie Parker has been a Physical Therapist since 2000 and has a special focus on pelvic health. As a pelvic floor specialist, she specializes in Women's Health including bladder, bowel, and pain dysfunction to include prenatal and postpartum care. She also works with women with breast and reproductive cancer in a variety of ways including lymphedema care. Over the years she has expanded her focus to include both men's and children's pelvic health as well. 
 
In 2012, she developed the Seacoast's premiere Pediatric bladder and bowel program, Pediatric Elimination Therapy (P.E.T.) at Wentworth Douglass Hospital. She then opened her own Physical Therapy practice in Eliot, Maine. 
 
Leslie published her first book, "The Art of Control; A Woman's Guide To Bladder Care" in June 2015, which hit Amazon's #1 Best Seller rating during the first week it was published. She did this as she was recovering from breast cancer, bilateral mastectomies, and chemotherapy. 
 
She treats women, men, and children with pelvic floor dysfunction which typically presents as bladder issues (leaks, frequency, getting up at night to pee, pain, BPH, etc), bowel issues ( leaks, constipation, IBS, incomplete emptying, pain, etc), and pelvic pain (vaginal, rectal, tailbone, endometriosis, IC, low back, hip, penile, etc). She is in the process of launching a community membership for women for "all things" pelvic floor. 

In this episode, Leslie shares that we should know about our pelvic floor muscles.

She talks about:

  • The different stages of our lives where we might encounter bladder issues (pregnancy, post-partum, menopause, and everyone in between!) 
  • How the pelvic floor muscles support our organs.
  • How the pelvic floor stops things from coming out (pee, poop, gas) and how it lets things in (tampons, speculums, vibrators).
  • What tight vs loose, weak vs strong pelvic floor really means. 
  • The common symptoms of pelvic floor issues. 
  • Six main tips for a healthy pelvic floor. 
  • Why you should stop doing Kegels (it’s not for everybody!).  
  • And so much more!  
Links mentioned in the episode: 

Find out more about Leslie here.

Download Leslie's free guide on The 6 Steps to Bladder Control here.

Jump on the waitlist for her new community membership for women here

Click HERE to check out her book on Amazon.  

Connect with Leslie on Facebook, or Instagram.

Leslie's email: leslie@innerbalancept.com 

You can also listen to Leslie’s podcast with her son here.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. 

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. 

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest. 

Oct 19, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares Part 6 of her story. 

Please note that these contain sensitive topics on domestic abuse and violence.

It is recommended you listen to Parts 1 - 5 prior to listening to Part 6, but here's a short recap of the past episodes.

In Ep 263 - Part 1, Kimberley talked about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father, the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a very toxic and abusive relationship. She shared the story of the early days of their relationship, up until the birth of her daughter, and the red flags and abusive tendencies that started appearing.

In Ep 264 - Part 2, Kimberley's story continued. She talked about how the abusive tendencies started escalating and she shared her experience of what she would later find out was known as the cycle of domestic violence. She also talked about how she gained the courage to leave him, though it was the first of many attempts she made to leave the relationship, and how six months later he wormed his way back in.

In Ep 267 - Part 3, Kimberley shares the further violent and abusive outbursts of her ex, and the safety measures she started taking to protect herself (and how she perceived this as being normal), the financial abuse that had started getting worse, the isolation he inflicted on her and separating her from her friends and sister (her biggest support), his gambling and consequent debt that kept increasing, and his paranoia that kept getting worse. She also shares what happened when he moved out and back in again a couple of times.

In Ep 268 - Part 4, Kimberley started sharing what happened in the final six months of them living together, which is what she allowed because she wanted to protect her kids. She shared all the crazy things he did and beliefs he held and how she always felt like she was walking on eggshells around her ex. And then how one day, he started telling her how easy it would be to kill her - that all he had to do was come over and strangle her. And then he taunted her – repeatedly walked towards her and then away. And then the next day - raping her.

In Ep 269 - Part 5, Kimberley explains how she felt completely stuck with nowhere to go after calling the Police for advice and being told she could take an AVO out that would protect her, but not her children. She talks more about his violent outbursts and his sexist attitudes and tells us about the suicide threats he would make to their children.

Kimberley also shares the details of the night the nightmare she was living finally came to an end and what happened after that.

In this episode, Kimberley shares the final part of her story.

She talks about how the kids had no interest in seeing their father (and still don't 7 years later after the police took him away), how she had no sleep for two years as he continued to breach court orders and she lived on high alert.

She also talks about the court process and the supervised visits and phone calls that were ordered for the children to spend time with their dad. And how he would continue to use these phone calls as a way to torment Kimberley and even do things like bark at her. She also talks about what it was like at the contact centre for supervised visits and about the Independent Children's Lawyer that was provided.

Kimberley also talks about finding out about her ex's new partner and their two children and the emotions that came along with that.

And finally, Kimberley shares how she gained her freedom and the empowerment that has come from sharing her story.  She also talks about the impacts the whole experience has had on her, from a mental health perspective and otherwise, and how she feels about it now. And lastly - the next steps for Kimberley.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 263 - Kimberley's Story (Part 1) HERE.

Listen to Ep 264 - Kimberley's Story (Part 2) HERE.

Listen to Ep 267 - Kimberley's Story (Part 3) HERE.

Listen to Ep 268 - Kimberley's Story (Part 4) HERE.

Listen to Ep 269 - Kimberley's Story (Part 5) HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Oct 12, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares Part 5 of her story. 

Please note that these contain sensitive topics on domestic abuse and violence.

It is recommended you listen to Parts 1 - 4 prior to listening to Part 5, but here's a short recap of the past episodes.

In Ep 263 - Part 1, Kimberley talked about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father, the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a very toxic and abusive relationship. She shared the story of the early days of their relationship, up until the birth of her daughter, and the red flags and abusive tendencies that started appearing.

In Ep 264 - Part 2, Kimberley's story continued. She talked about how the abusive tendencies started escalating and she shared her experience of what she would later find out was known as the cycle of domestic violence. She also talked about how she gained the courage to leave him, though it was the first of many attempts she made to leave the relationship, and how six months later he wormed his way back in.

In Ep 267 - Part 3, Kimberley shares the further violent and abusive outbursts of her ex, and the safety measures she started taking to protect herself (and how she perceived this as being normal), the financial abuse that had started getting worse, the isolation he inflicted on her and separating her from her friends and sister (her biggest support), his gambling and consequent debt that kept increasing, and his paranoia that kept getting worse. She also shares what happened when he moved out and back in again a couple of times.

In Ep 268 - Part 4, Kimberley started sharing what happened in the final six months of them living together, which is what she allowed because she wanted to protect her kids. She shared all the crazy things he did and beliefs he held and how she always felt like she was walking on eggshells around her ex. And then how one day, he started telling her how easy it would be to kill her - that all he had to do was come over and strangle her. And then he taunted her – repeatedly walked towards her and then away. And then the next day - raping her.

In this episode, Kimberley explains how she felt completely stuck with nowhere to go after calling the Police for advice and being told she could take an AVO out that would protect her, but not her children. 

She talks more about his violent outbursts - throwing raw eggs all over the walls of the kitchen and dining room, hitting their daughter with their phone, and spitting on his son's bedroom door - and his sexist attitudes - expecting Kimberley to clean up after him, and their daughter to clean up after her brother. She also tells us about the suicide threats he would make to their children.

Kimberley also shares the details of the night the nightmare she was living finally came to an end...

Finally, we discuss:

  • The process she took to get an AVO out against her ex and how she was able to get him to leave her home (for good). 
  • The help she received from some amazing organisations and people.
  • How he continuously breached the AVO.
  • The fear she lived with and the impact it had on her.
  • How the feelings her children had towards their father changed.

Stay tuned for next week, where Kimberley shares the final part of her story - Part 6.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 263 - Kimberley's Story (Part 1) HERE.

Listen to Ep 264 - Kimberley's Story (Part 2) HERE.

Listen to Ep 267 - Kimberley's Story (Part 3) HERE.

Listen to Ep 268 - Kimberley's Story (Part 4) HERE.

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Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

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Oct 5, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares Part 4 of her story. 

Please note that these contain sensitive topics on domestic abuse and violence.

It is recommended you listen to Parts 1 - 3 prior to listening to Part 4, but here's a short recap of the past episodes.

In Ep 263 - Part 1, Kimberley talked about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father, the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a very toxic and abusive. She shared the story of the early days of their relationship, up until the birth of her daughter, and the red flags and abusive tendencies that started appearing.

In Ep 264 - Part 2, Kimberley's story continued. She talked about how the abusive tendencies started escalating and she shared her experience of what she would later find out was known as the cycle of domestic violence. She also talked about how she gained the courage to leave him, though it was the first of many attempts she made to leave the relationship, and how six months later he wormed his way back in.

In Ep 267 - Part 3, Kimberley shares the further violent and abusive outbursts of her ex, and the safety measures she started taking to protect herself (and how she perceived this as being normal), the financial abuse that had started getting worse, the isolation he inflicted on her and separating her from her friends and sister (her biggest support), his gambling and consequent debt that kept increasing, and his paranoia that kept getting worse. She also shares what happened when he moved out and back in again a couple of times.

In this episode, Kimberley starts sharing what happened in the final six months of them living together. 

Kimberely really struggled the day he packed his things and moved back in with her. He started drinking and commenting on her weight and telling her that he was embarrassed to be seen with her. And that was just during the car ride back to her home. She questioned what she'd done, and felt sad, scared and lost. She just wanted to protect her children. 

In this episode, Kimberley shares:

  • The contentious issue of her kids' school reports and how he never coped very well with them. 
  • An issue he had with their daughter's school photo and how he demanded Kimberley go to the school and ask if she’d made a mistake with the uniform.
  • How he put his daughter's recovery from her eye surgery at risk.
  • How when he was drunk he tried to get out of the car whilst Kimberley was driving and then proceeded to take the wheel from her.
  • How he got a cat which Kimberley would later learn was another strategic move to cut her off from people.
  • How he tormented Kimberley with fear prior to an operation she was having.
  • How he started making the kids sleep on mattresses on the floor in the living room so that Kimberley couldn’t escape (as he knew she wouldn’t go without her kids, and so would have to get past him also on a mattress with the kids on the floor).
  • How he used to tell their kids how awful their mum was.
  • The impact of everything on her kids.
  • How he kept the kids from her.
  • How he constantly threatened to take the kids if he moved out.

Kimberley always felt like she was walking on eggshells around her ex. And then one day, he started telling Kimberley how easy it would be to kill her. He said that all he had to do was come over and strangle her. And then he taunted her – repeatedly walked towards her and then away.

Stay tuned for next week, where Kimberley shares Part 5 of her story.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 263 - Kimberley's Story (Part 1) HERE.

Listen to Ep 264 - Kimberley's Story (Part 2) HERE.

Listen to Ep 267 - Kimberley's Story (Part 3) HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Sep 28, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares Part 3 of her story.

In Ep 263 - Part 1, Kimberley talked about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father, the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a very toxic and abusive. She shared the story of the early days of their relationship, up until the birth of her daughter, and the red flags and abusive tendencies that started appearing.

In Ep 264 - Part 2, Kimberley's story continued. She talked about how the abusive tendencies started escalating and she shared her experience of what she would later find out was known as the cycle of domestic violence. She also talked about how she gained the courage to leave him, though it was the first of many attempts she made to leave the relationship, and how six months later he wormed his way back in.

In this episode, Kimberley shares the further violent and abusive outbursts of her ex, and the safety measures she started taking to protect herself (and how she perceived this as being normal), the financial abuse that had started getting worse, the isolation he inflicted on her and separating her from her friends and sister (her biggest support), his gambling and consequent debt that kept increasing, his paranoia that kept getting worse, and how she got the courage to call the Domestic Violence Crises Service for the first time.

She also shares the events that led up to the second time that she left him and how it affected her kids, who were 4 and 10 at this stage, and the disaster that happened when she allowed him to temporarily stay at their place.

Kimberley also talks about how he eventually left again and moved away - a couple of hours away. Kimberley shares the horrors of what he put their kids through during that time, and how he neglected to care for them, and how ultimately she let him move back in, to keep her children safe as she could be there to protect them.

Stay tuned for next week, where Kimberley shares Part 4 of her story.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 263 - Kimberley's Story (Part 1) HERE.

Listen to Ep 264 - Kimberley's Story (Part 2) HERE.

Join Thrive Tribe HERE! Doors are now OPEN (for a limited time only)

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 21, 2021

This week on the show, I have Simon Favorito joining me.

Simon's passion for cooking began at an early age captivated by the art and alchemy of food. In his early 20's and several years into his food career, Simon's life took an unexpected turn when he became unwell and was burdened by chronic health issues leaving him feeling unwell, in pain and constantly exhausted. After several years of treatments and procedures there seemed to be no helpful solutions in sight. It was at this time Simon was guided to explore whole foods medicine and traditional healing practices leading him on a path to wellness, and ultimately regaining his health.

Since then, Simon's passion for natural healing and food has led him to study and work in a variety of healing modalities and integrate principles of natural healing and wellness into his cooking and teaching. Today Simon is a whole foods chef and holistic nutrition coach. He shares the life-enhancing potential of plant-based whole foods through cooking classes, wellness retreats and private consultations.

In this episode,  Simon discusses:

  • The challenges of growing up in a single-parent home.
  • How his passion for food and cooking started and evolved over the years.
  • Whole foods for the whole family.
  • Detoxing your kitchen.
  • Using food as medicine, and how to take care of your self and family using nature.
  • The value of bringing family together through eating rituals.
  • The "Nourishing number 1" rule.
  • And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Find out more about Simon and his services here.

Connect with Simon on Instagram and Facebook, or Linked In.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Sign up for the Wellness Weekend HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Sep 14, 2021

This week on the show, I have Heidi Hadley joining me.

Heidi originally trained in mainstream medicine as a Medical Technical Officer in Neurophysiology at the University Hospital (formerly the Queen Elizabeth) Birmingham, UK. It was whilst working there that a number of her patients suffering from side effects to their anti-epileptic drugs informed her that they received regular complementary/natural therapy treatments to alleviate the side effects of their pharmaceutical drugs.

After thorough research, Heidi decided to study and train in Natural Therapies. Heidi has also completed a Phytotherapy course with Bioforce UK, studying the use of herbs with health. Heidi has a holistic approach to her treatments. Rather than deal with the symptoms of a problem, she aims to deal with the root cause. Treating the whole person is Heidi's objective.

Heidi started her career in natural therapies in 2001 and has acquired many different techniques over the years to bring greater choice to her clients. She ran clinics in England treating people with serious disabilities and many of these clients suffered from Multiple Sclerosis.

Heidi is the founder of Total Somatics®, an online program designed to reduce pain, improve posture, increase mobility, develop mindfulness and allow you to resume or continue with the activities you love to do. She is a Certified Clinical Somatic Educator and Somatic Movement Teacher in the work of Thomas Hanna. Heidi is also a qualified Pilates instructor. This gives her clients greater awareness of their bodies, movement patterns and educating them with a skill set so they can perform specific exercises for 10-20 minutes each day in the comfort and privacy of their own home.

In this episode,  Heidi discusses:

  • How stress can mould our posture.
  • Resetting - pandiculation - the process we use to create greater awareness of our internal environment.
  • What we can learn from within the animal kingdom.
  • How we can identify when we are switching into subconscious stress patterns and behaviours.
  • What we can do to break these old patterns for new healthy patterns.
  • Creating flexibility and resilience for our nervous system

Links mentioned in the episode:

Find out more about Heidi here, and get lots of free resources here. You can also check out her podcast: Somatic Movement & Mindset. which is available on all major podcast platforms.

Connect with Heidi on Instagram and Facebook, or YouTube here.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Sign up for the Wellness Weekend HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 7, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares Part 2 of her story.

In the last episode (Ep 263 - Part 1), Kimberley talked about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father, the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a very toxic and abusive. She shared the story of the early days of their relationship, up until the birth of her daughter, and the red flags and abusive tendencies that started appearing.

In this part, Kimberley's story continues. She talks about how the abusive tendencies started further creeping in, and how she ended up in a situation where walking on eggshells and being on alert at all times were the norm. Her partner started being very nasty to her, saying horrible things to her, mocking her, and gaslighting her - even trying to convince her that she had postnatal depression. He also started drinking a lot more and became more controlling and abusive about their finances. His needs always came first.

In this episode, Kimberley shares her experience of what she would later find out was known as the cycle of domestic violence. 

After a horrendous experience where her partner bashed her head against the wall whilst she was holding their baby, Kimberley got an AVO out and left him. This would be the first of many attempts she made to leave the relationship.

With the support of her sister, she lived the single mum life, sharing the care of their daughter with him, for six months. That was until he wormed his way back in again. Again, he started out on his best behaviour, but it didn't last long.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 263 - Kimberley's Story (Part 1) HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Aug 31, 2021

This week on the show, single mum Kimberley shares part 1 of her story.

In this episode, Kimberley talks about growing up in a single mum household and the relationship she had with her own father. Never did she expect to have a similar situation as she grew up and had her own children.

In Part 1 of this series, Kimberley talks about the night she met her husband, and how (what she thought was going to be) a one night stand turned into a relationship.

She didn't know it at the time, but this relationship would last many many years and turn very toxic and abusive.

Kimberley shares how there were some jealous tendencies and red flags during the early days of her relationship, but overall it wasn't too bad until they moved in together. Then things changed. 

She fairly quickly found out about his debts, and soon became unexpectedly pregnant. It was at this stage that things took a turn for the worse. She started seeing some strange behaviour from her partner. He had a very nonchalant reaction to the pregnancy and decided to take up smoking, despite never having smoked and knowing full well that Kimberley had quit cold turkey upon finding out she was pregnant and was struggling. He had also started treating Kimberley horribly. 

Kimberley shares how she got very unwell prior to giving birth, and also afterwards. She was diagnosed with Bell’s Palsy and her partner refused to pay for the medication that she needed.

This was only the beginning of the abuse that Kimberley endured during her relationship with her ex. 

Stay tuned for Part 2, dropping next week.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Aug 24, 2021

In this episode, we celebrate the Single Mother Survival Guide podcast turning five years old. That's five years of recording, editing, and producing weekly episodes, and speaking to AMAZING women. I’m really proud of this accomplishment and the ripple effect it’s had on women, and I'm so appreciative of the entire Single Mother Survival Guide podcast community - those who listen, those who share, and those who contribute. 

In this episode, I share the journey that I've been on in the last five years, and the great things that have come from it. Six of my Thrive Tribe members also share what they love about the community, and what the community has done for them.

Thanks for being a part of the ride!

Love,

Julia

Links mentioned in the episode:

Blog post - FIVE CHOICES WE HAVE THAT IMPACT OUR MINDSET.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Aug 17, 2021

This week on the show, I have Nikki Knieriem joining me.

Nikki is the owner of Mum-Me Fit Time, a mother of two young boys, a part-time primary school teacher and a lover of all things health. Nikki is passionate about helping women to optimise their health by focusing on four main pillars; exercise, nutrition, sleep and stress reduction. Through her own experiences as a mum, she understands that time is limited, the to-do list is always long and often your own self-care practices fall further down the priority list. Nikki loves helping women to unlock barriers and practice self-care without adding overwhelm or one more thing to the to-do list. 

In this episode,  Nikki shares:

  • How the four pillars of health all interlink.
  • How to increase movement in your day even when there is no time to exercise.
  • How to overcome exercise mindset barriers. 

Links mentioned in the episode:

Find out more about Nikki, and download her 7 days of 5-minute workouts here.

Connect with Nikki on Instagram and Facebook, or email her here.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Aug 10, 2021

This week on the show, I have a single mum, Lucy Kippist, sharing her story.

It was three years ago, that Lucy was blindsided and told her marriage was over. Her boys were five and almost three years old. What ensued was 8 months of trying everything she could to make things with her husband work. When that failed, Lucy eventually moved out and began the process of healing and moving on with her life.

In this episode, Lucy talks about:

  • The trauma she experienced.
  • How she healed.
  • Why accepting her part in something she didn't want to end was the most healing thing she could do.
  • The importance of making a decision about the way she wanted her life to be and how she wanted to see her separation, and moving forward from there.
  • How work played a pivotal role in changing her life and recovery.
  • Girlfriends and how important they were.
  • And SO MUCH MORE!

Lucy also shares some amazing words of wisdom and is a true inspiration. She has a really positive attitude and is now even able to look back and be grateful for the experience she went through and how she grew as a result. I think you will love this episode!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Aug 3, 2021

This week on the show, I have Alena Turley joining me.

Alena is a Sydney-based community founder, podcaster, and Hapkido instructor. Founder of the Soul Mama Hub, Alena helps home-based mothers who feel lost find their way back to themselves and become better custodians of their bodies, their families, and the environment. 

In this episode, Alena shares her story of single parenthood and a host of challenges that left her homeless and hopeless.

After five years of deep healing and re-evaluation, life led her in exciting directions. In this session, she shares where her interest in an ethical lifestyle came from, and the simple changes we can make to help take care of the earth.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To learn more about Alena and what she does, visit https://soulmamahub.com/.

Get your FREE one-page checklist of simple actions you can take today to live in a more eco-conscious way HERE.

You can also connect with Alena on Instagram here, and on Facebook here.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Jul 27, 2021

This week on the show, I have Carrie Ibbetson joining me.

Carrie Ibbetson believes healing of the mouth comes from multiple aspects, with one of the biggest challenges being the time it takes people to learn why things are breaking down and motivating themselves to make changes in their habits or products. Her 25+ year career in dentistry allows her to understand oral health challenges and see solutions from multiple facets.

Recognizing this challenge early in her dental hygiene career she started coaching her patients into healthier mouths with great success. In 2010 she took that knowledge and insight online where she has been successfully motivating people globally to make a change and see results with her online course and membership community. Her community of over 30k help her gain insight and see the many challenges the consumer is facing daily.

Her passion drives a high success rate that helps both professionals and consumers see what is possible when people become empowered and motivated about their own oral health journey!

In this episode,  Carrie shares:

  • Why she got into dentistry, and where her passion came from.
  • How to know if we are practising our oral hygiene the right way.
  • Healthy dental hacks to implement throughout the day.
  • mouth breathing versus nose breathing and the potential consequences that can arise when mouth breathing.
  • At what age to take the kids to the dentist.
  • How to find a good dentist and the right questions to ask them.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Find out more about Carrie: https://www.carrieibbetson.com/

Find out more about Carrie's Club: https://www.oralhealthcoaching.com/

Connect with Carrie on Instagram and Facebook.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Jul 20, 2021

Homeschooling whilst in lockdown... is there anything worse? In this week's episode, I chat about what worked for us last year, and how things have changed this year.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Jul 13, 2021

Small constructive actions taken on a daily or routine basis can quickly give you a sense of accomplishment, forward momentum, and literally change your life.

This week on the show, I share some ideas for daily habits to implement in your life. 

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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