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Single Mother Survival Guide

Becoming a single mum is one of the most daunting and overwhelming life changes someone will ever go through. Whether you are pregnant or have teenagers, you will most likely be confused and struggling with what to do next. I became a single mother in 2013 when my daughter was just a few months old, and it has been a challenging but rewarding journey ever since. This Podcast (and the website www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com) was created to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about. SO WHAT IS THE SINGLE MOTHER SURVIVAL GUIDE PODCAST ABOUT? A Podcast for single mums, made by a single mum… The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast includes a mixture of me babbling about single mums business, and interviews and discussions with different people and experts about different topics. First off the ranks this includes an interview with a Wills and Estate lawyer which contains everything YOU need to know about getting a Will done, an interview with a financial adviser on everyday money management, savings, spending and so forth, an interview with an online security expert so that YOU know how to keep yourself secure online, an open interview with a domestic violence survivor and advocate, and another interview with a financial adviser on everything to do with insurance, and what you should think about getting insured to ensure the financial safety for you and your kids. Coming up after that I have chats with people including parenting experts, family lawyers, and a life coach. I also chat about the social stigma of being a single mum, single parent travel, everyday tips to make YOUR life easier, dating, personal budgeting, resources out there to help YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN, child support, domestic violence, successful co-parenting, advantages to being a single mum, and the list goes on…
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Dec 27, 2022

In this week’s episode, I have my new husband Greg joining me! Get ready for laughter and cringe moments as Greg and I recall our highs and lows of 2022. And lastly, we want to share our wedding story with you!

What a whirlwind of a year it has been. We are happy to end 2022 on a high note, and we look forward to more memories and experiences for next year. Thank you for being part of my journey and for allowing me to be a part of yours.

From our family to yours, have a wonderful season of celebrations!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Dec 20, 2022

This week on the show, I have the legendary Bill Eddy joining me.

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is the world’s leading expert on methods for managing disputes involving people with high-conflict personalities. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists, and others. He has worked as the senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center, a certified family law specialist representing clients in family court, and a licensed clinical social worker therapist. In 2021, he received the Lifetime Achievement award from the Academy of Professional Mediators.

Bill serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law, and is a conjoint associate professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has delivered talks and training to lawyers, judges, and mediators in over 30 U.S. states and 13 countries, and has authored or co-authored 20 books. His popular blog on the Psychology Today website has more than 5 million views. He regularly consults on issues of alienation, family violence, and false allegations in family court cases.

In addition, Bill is the developer of the New Ways for Families® method of managing potentially high-conflict families in and out of family court. 

In this episode we talk about:

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

You can connect with Bill on his Website, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Twitter, or his YouTube channel.

You can also check out his Podcast, It’s All Your Fault HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Dec 13, 2022

Today I give the single mums out there a bit of a pep talk. The holiday season can bring so much stress and overwhelm to many single mums. Being a single mum during the holidays can be lonely, but it doesn’t mean you cannot be happy. There are still so many things to be grateful for.  

I hope this episode helps you make your single-parent holiday season an awesome, incredible time with your kids. Holidays are some of the hardest times for a single parent, but with positivity and creativity, you can make it fun and develop new holiday traditions with your kids. You can do this!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Dec 6, 2022

Today I talk about developing new traditions when it comes to dealing with holiday seasons as a single parent. I hope the ideas I share with you create meaningful and new memorable Christmas traditions. Every major life event, whether joyful or sad, brings on a period of transition as we adjust to the “new normal,” and it turns out that celebrating Christmas as a single parent can be just as good, or often (and especially over time), even better! 

I hope this episode is insightful for you and provides you with hope. Give yourself a pat on the back, there is no better gift you can give to yourself knowing that you are thriving after dealing with adversity.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Nov 29, 2022

In this ep, I chat about five different parent-child contact problems one might face. For example, in a recent podcast, I discussed a polarizing topic about parental alienation. Some believe in it and some don’t. Here, I spend a bit of time discussing this more to bring greater awareness and understanding of this topic.

In this episode, I discuss:

  • Parental alienation
  • Estrangement
  • Child empowerment
  • Gatekeeping
  • Parentification

These five parent-child contact problems are things to be mindful of, so you are able to maintain positive parent-child relationships.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Nov 22, 2022

This week on the show, I have Susan Shofer joining me.

Susan Shofer is a two-decade agency-licensed private investigator with over 1,100 testifying hours. Ten years ago, while working as a private investigator, Susan became a certified divorce coach. Her area of expertise is high-conflict divorce with a specialty in parental alienation. Susan is a member of the Parental Alienation Study Group, comprised of the most prominent mental health clinicians and legal professionals in the parental alienation space. She is also the Director of the Baltimore /Annapolis/ DC/ Northern Virginia NADP (National Association of Divorce Professionals).

Susan’s passion and mission are to help people navigate through their high-conflict divorce using specific strategies unique to their cases. Her specialty is teaching targeted parents how to approach parental alienation with a true understanding of why it happens, how it must be litigated in court, and ways to effectively communicate with alienated children.

In this episode we talked about:

  • What parental alienation is and why it’s the worst part of a high-conflict divorce.
  • What parental alienation is NOT.
  • How a parent may orchestrate parental alienation.
  • The impact of parental alienation on the targeted parent and the children.
  • How alienating parents are linked to often having personality disorders.
  • Why the alienator alienates their child from their other parent.
  • How parental alienation as a form of child abuse and domestic violence.
  • How parental alienation can affect children.
  • Susan's TedX talk experience and how it came about.
  • How parental alienation can happen pre, during, and post-divorce or separation.
  • How to move past parental alienation.
  • How parents who are alienated are often seen as the ones who may have done something wrong, rather than being victims.
  • And so much more!

This is a topic that is close to my heart. it is so important and so tragic. I hope it helps you if you are suffering from going through this.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

If you want to get in touch with Susan, you may email her at Susan@susanshofer.com.

Check out Susan's website HERE

You can connect with Susan on Facebook, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Instagram, or her YouTube channel.

You can watch Susan’s TedX talk HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Nov 15, 2022

This week on the show, I have Kurt Chacon joining me.

Kurt Chacon is a collaborative lawyer and certified divorce coach based in Dallas, Texas. 

As both a child of divorce and a parent of divorce, Kurt has seen divorce from every possible angle. This perspective is why his goal is always to mitigate the effects of divorce on children. He is a member of both the Collaborative Law and Family Law Sections of the State Bar of Texas. He is also a member of the Collaborative Law Institute of Texas (CLI-TX), Collaborative Divorce Denton County, and Collaborative Divorce Texas

In this episode we talked about:

  • Growing up as an only child with divorced parents.
  • How he got involved with collaborative divorce, as someone who went through it firsthand.
  • Going through his own divorce and having the need to be supported by a collaborative lawyer.
  • The effects of divorce on children.
  • What a collaborative divorce is and what the collaborative process looks like.
  • Children's perspective on divorce.
  • Situations where collaborative divorce is not recommended.
  • The difference between the collaborative process and cooperative law.
  • The general timeline in a collaborative divorce process.

Personally, I believe a collaborative divorce is a fantastic option if it's possible in your situation, and I hope this episode helps you learn more about what it is, and if it's a good fit for you.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Contact Kurt by emailing him at coachkurt@me.com

You can also connect with him on Facebook

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Nov 8, 2022

In today’s episode, I share the seven mindset skills that are really important for kids under 10 to learn. While teaching children how to spell or solve math problems is essential, it is just as important to teach them life skills.

Many kids these days are not equipped with knowing how to handle things like dealing with conflict and managing their emotions. Little life events can also cause life trauma.

Having a positive mindset is developed through the experiences that happen in our kids' lives and how they interpret them. As parents, it starts with us being role models to our children. Let’s teach them these mindset skills to give them a great foundation for life.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Nov 1, 2022

This week on the show, I have Mary Ann Hughes joining me.

Mary Ann Hughes is the proud mom of two boys on the autism spectrum who successfully advocated for her sons' needs during her complex divorce, and then became a Special Needs Divorce Coach founding Special Family Transitions to help families navigate the overwhelm and complexities of special needs divorce.

Combining her experience and certifications as a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, Certified Life Coach, member of The National Association of Divorce Professionals, MBA, and years of special needs training and advocacy, Mary Ann is committed to helping guide families with loved ones with disabilities through divorce challenges and transitions.

In this episode we talked about: 

  • Mary Ann’s divorce story and how it led her to become a divorce coach for mums with special needs kids.
  • How she started her company Special Family Transitions.
  • Life before her divorce and her first concerns navigating becoming a single mum caring for two kids with special needs.
  • How to advocate for and support kids with special needs during and after divorce.
  • Co-Parenting and communication with her ex-partner.
  • Additional considerations to think about when divorcing as a mum with special needs children (such as prolonged child support, government benefits, planning for life insurance and wills, etc).
  • Daily routines caring for children with special needs.
  • How to survive a special needs divorce, and thrive afterward.
  • The RISE framework she uses in her online course that helps mums who have special needs kids through divorce.
  • And so much more!

I loved having Mary Ann on the show and sharing all she does. I hope you enjoy this and find this episode a useful resource.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Contact Mary Ann by emailing her at maryann@specialfamilytransitions.com.

Find out more about Mary Ann and what she does at https://www.specialfamilytransitions.com/.

Use the discount code JULIA to get 25% off her online course for Keys to Success in Divorce for Moms of Children with Special Needs. Sign up here

You can also connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and LinkedIn

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Oct 25, 2022

Today I chat about getting rid of your stuff before, during, and after divorce. Divorce is expensive, and when you sell old stuff it can help alleviate some of the financial burdens, plus it helps you to declutter and it can also be a therapeutic and helpful way to help you move on with your new life.

Getting rid of all the “stuff” that you and your partner have accumulated throughout your relationship is one of those little things that often gets overshadowed, but it is an important way to help you let go of your past – out with the old, in with the new!

Here I talk about what to sell, how to do it and all the benefits!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Oct 18, 2022

Today I talk about different support options people wish I had known before they decide to get a divorce. Divorce settlements aren't fun for anyone; sometimes they can take months or even years. This is a life-altering decision about your future. So really considering what is best, especially if you have children, and considering various support options to ensure the best possible outcome for you and your family is super important.

In this episode, I talk about the top three things that keep coming up in terms of what people wish they knew about support options before getting divorced.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Oct 11, 2022

Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share six things people wish they had known before getting a divorce in relation to communication and relationships.

Good communication is a vital ingredient of a strong marriage. The problem is that some people aren't good at it. If there's a breakdown in communication, it's much harder to build and maintain a happy relationship.

Getting a divorce is not something that is usually decided on overnight. It is something that really needs to be thought through. It helps to be aware of some of the many things that can be considered before making this life-changing decision.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Episode 286 - Four Biggest Predictors of Divorce by John Gottman

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

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Oct 4, 2022

Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share some of the things people have mentioned as what they wished they knew about the more significant impact of divorce before actually getting a divorce. Here, I share five different viewpoints to give you a different perspective on things and to give you some things to consider.

Getting a divorce is not something that is usually decided on overnight. It is something that really needs to be thought through. It helps to be aware of some of the many things that can be considered before making this life-changing decision.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join Thrive Tribe HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 27, 2022

Transitioning from wife or partner to single mother is not easy. The pain from a loss of a relationship is never an easy time. There will be days when you feel you can’t handle it alone. I want to assure you, first and foremost, that you can do this! Be proactive during this time. The beginning is always the hardest, but you can take it one step at a time, and soon you will find out what works for you and what doesn't.

In this episode, I share some tips on how you can support yourself through this process of transitioning from being in a partnership to becoming a single mum. I hope you find these tips helpful as you go through this transition.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Download the Ultimate List of Me-Time Ideas HERE.

Listen to Episode 307 - Asking for help HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 20, 2022

In this episode, I chat with you about the six mindset transition milestones of a divorce. The transition of moving from a partnership, or marriage, to being a single parent is a process, but how quickly you get through it is dependent on how willing you are to let go and engage in the process. This is important so you are not stuck in the pain forever. 

The six milestones will help you become more aware of what’s coming. These milestones are from Alan Wolfelt’s book, Transcending Divorce, Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart.

There’s a whole range of stages that one might go through in order to heal. Here, I talk about the starting point of divorce, the transition steps in between, and the end (which leads to new beginnings). Each person is different, and you will progress at your own pace. Your journey is your own journey.

I hope that listening to this episode will help you become more aware of your own journey, and to ask for help if you think you need it.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to my previous episode, 307 - Asking for help, HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 13, 2022

Today I talk with you about the emotional journey and transition from being in a partnership or marriage to being a single parent. All divorces start with a relationship, and like any kind of loss, the end of a marriage may trigger various reactions.

In this episode, I share the phases that may help you understand where you are now and provide some advice to help you navigate this difficult time. I also talk about the 3-year stages of the transition process. Transition is hard, and sometimes we resist it out of fear, frustration, and impatience. It’s important to have that knowledge and to trust the process. Change is not instant and may take time to allow for our transitioning.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Sep 7, 2022

No one enters into a relationship with the intention of separating from their partner someday. So it's no surprise that a separation or divorce can become a rollercoaster of emotions even for the most level-headed individuals. It's a big adjustment! Until recently you had shared hopes and dreams with your partner, and suddenly it's all gone. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused and as if you have completely lost who you are. But this is all normal and manageable. 

Today I talk about some strategies to help you rediscover yourself. One important decision you have to make after a separation is deciding where your life goes from here.

Divorce or separation only marks the end of a chapter in your life. And it's the opportunity for a brand new one!

I hope that the things I share help you and I truly wish you the best with your journey. 

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

 

Aug 31, 2022

In this week’s episode, I talk about managing emotions. When you’re a single mum, you may encounter twice the stress, twice the frustration, and twice the burnout that traditional father and mother parenting may experience. It is important to tune in and manage your emotions well because you have a huge influence on your child’s development. Learning to manage your own reactions is one of the most important ways you can teach your child how to manage their own emotions.

In Episode 311, I discussed emotions and what they are. And today I hope to give you an understanding of how to manage them. I know it is surely easier said than done, but the payoff is huge, for you and your child. I also talk about the difference between emotions and feelings, negative self-talk, the cycle of thoughts, feelings, and behaviour, and quick tips on how to manage your emotions.

 Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Aug 25, 2022

This week we are celebrating our 6th podcast anniversary!

Greg joins me on the show this week. It’s just us having a chat on how the show has evolved over the years. We reminisce about our memorable travel moments, past guests and learnings, planning for our wedding, life in Goondiwindi, and Greg’s top relationship tips. Even my daughter pops in to say hello!

This show started as a small passion project and it just grew over time, talking to so many incredible guests, and reaching thousands of listeners.

I will never get tired of saying THANK YOU for making this show a part of your single mum journey. I am truly grateful!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Aug 16, 2022

Today I talk with you about emotions. How we live and interact with others is influenced by our emotions. It could even be said that we are ruled by our emotions. We make decisions based on whether we are happy, angry, or sad. It’s important to understand how your emotions are expressed and the impact they have on your actions because they can help us navigate life with ease.

In this episode, I talk about the eight basic emotions that we are born with, and how they can stimulate a response in our body that influence our actions, behaviour, and decision-making. I also talk about blending emotions to produce a new emotion.

I want you to know that it’s okay to experience any type of emotion, even those that can be difficult to cope with like anger or fear. Understanding your emotions helps us learn how to manage them, and it helps build healthy, satisfying relationships.

Listen to the episode to know more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Aug 9, 2022

You can probably recall situations in your life that have made you uncomfortable. Right now, you may already be trapped in a cycle of avoidance without even knowing it. Avoidance in general are actions a person takes to escape from difficult thoughts and feelings. It may cause panic and anxiety when not managed properly. And you may find yourself restricting your life as you avoid people, events, and opportunities in an attempt to keep anxiety at bay. This can create an unhealthy and vicious cycle which intensifies over time.  

In this episode I will discuss what exactly avoidance is. In order to change anything, you must first start becoming aware of when it’s occurring, so I will also share different types of avoidance coping, graded exposure therapy and other strategies for healthy emotional coping techniques plus breaking the cycle of avoidance.

I hope it helps you!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Aug 2, 2022

In this week’s episode, I talk about emotions, managing emotions, and how they can affect our body if we avoid dealing with them.

When emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with the emotions effectively or avoid them. For many people, avoidance becomes their primary coping mechanism, because the trauma is too painful to deal with at the time. Or it may be because there isn't the capacity to deal with it at that time.

Instinctively we want to avoid pain and discomfort and would very much rather avoid facing these emotions head-on. But emotional avoidance, if left unchecked over time, can extend suffering and, in the long run, may do more harm than good. What you resist, persists.

In this episode, I talk about what suppressed emotions can do to our body and mind when we don't release them. Listen as I share some tips on how to identify your avoidance coping mechanisms and take steps toward making changes to help you heal.

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Jul 26, 2022

Moving forward after a crisis can be really tough. And becoming a single mum can definitely be a crisis. A crisis can also be something such as struggling with anger, loneliness, fatigue, financial worries, and a whole array of emotions that you might be going through. And when we’re dealing with a crisis, we might be carrying all the stress ourselves, carrying it on our shoulders, as we embark on this new chapter of our life.

In this episode, I share a few tips that can help you move forward when crisis hits. I hope that what I discuss will help you move forward with a plan and with confidence.

Know that there are many other single mums grappling with exactly the same issues, and many have come up with creative solutions and are now thriving in life. Build a support system of family and friends that you can turn to for encouragement and support. You've got this!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

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Jul 19, 2022

In this week’s episode, I talk about asking for help. As single mums, we often struggle to ask for help. You might feel you want to do it all, but it can be very exhausting. Others may not have trouble asking for help. But for those of us who do, I share my thoughts on why many of us are reluctant to ask for help. I also talk about practicing discernment on who to ask and when the appropriate time to ask for help is, plus some obstacles that stand in our way when asking for help. 

I hope that what I shared today helps you. If you truly are struggling, please ask for help. A lot of people love helping others, be grateful to accept the help you need and pass it forward someday. 

Links mentioned in the episode: 

To listen to my podcast episode on boundaries, click HERE

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

Jul 12, 2022

This week on the show, I have Isabelle Silbery joining me.

Isabelle is a reality TV star who shined into the limelight as one of the members of ‘The Silberys’ in Gogglebox Australia. She is the youngest member of ‘The Silberys’ alongside her mother (Kerry) and grandmother (Emmie), bringing multi-generational women’s relationships and voices to TV screens every week.

They have recently written a book called Out of the Box, a memoir where they share their most personal memories and lessons learned. She also writes for Body+Soul, Mamamia and Kidspot about all the things people are thinking, but not saying. Sex, motherhood, love, divorce, and relationships – nothing is off-limits.

Isabelle is a social commentator, writer, and philanthropist. She is an investor in social impact projects, driven by collaborative, purpose-driven thinking that leads to connection and social change. Day to day, she is a domestic goddess and mumma to her seven-year-old son – her most important job of all.

In this episode, Isabelle talks about:

  • How her book, Out of the Box, came to fruition.
  • How through the process of writing the book, her mother, grandmother and herself learned so much about each other and how it brought them much closer together.
  • Dealing with PTSD.
  • Co-parenting with her ex-husband, and now transitioning into a blended family as a newly married woman.
  • Her recent miscarriage and how it also affected her husband.
  • Stories about married life.
  • And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode: 

You can check out Isabell’s book, Out of the Box HERE. The book is also available as an audiobook.

You can also connect with Izzy on Instagram.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com.

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on FacebookInstagramTwitter, or Pinterest.

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